Does she get off the phone quickly when you call? Do you send her long flowery emails, only to get one-line answers (or none at all) in return? If so, tone it down and let her come to you if she wants. Look for signs that your flirtation is unwanted. An email is OK, but a handwritten note dropped at her door or mailed is more memorable. Maybe it says you enjoyed spending time together, or maybe it's just a little 'I'm thinking of you.' Even better: Something that makes her laugh. Ask her how work is going or what she's done lately with a particular hobby. Call her just to say hi and see what's she's been doing. Show her she's not 'out of sight, out of mind.' Tell her you've been thinking about her.Offer to get her a drink if you're at a party or bar together. Touch her hand or shoulder when you hand it to her.Humor goes a long way in cutting the tension and loosening both of you up.

Tell her you notice the way she gazes off to the side when she's thinking or smirks a certain way when she's holding back.

Say something that makes her feel seen and heard.Compliment her on the way her hair catches the sunlight. Tell her that her blue sweater really highlights the beautiful color of her eyes. Let her know you think she's attractive.Don't move it away unless she does or if she signals that it's making her uncomfortable. If you're sitting across from each other, gently put your hand on hers. Don't underestimate the power of touch.It might sound corny, but open a door for her to walk through. Hold the stare for a little longer than you would in a normal conversation. Look her in the eye when you are talking. When you're sitting on a couch and your thighs touch, what does she do? Does she let it stay, or inch away? Notice if she moves closer or farther away. When you're out together, try to sit near her. Observe how she reacts to your nearness.

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